When I feel that he has a “Sulking Face for No Reason,” the dream I’m yearning for is…calm and peace.
Some 65% of the responses are:
1. “I would like to feel that when and if he starts sulking, it’s a momentary lapse. It’s normal to feel a little let down sometimes, but he needs to let it go, get back in the game, and resolve the issue like an adult.”
2. “Some honesty between us would be great. He could just tell me when something is truly bothering him, and if he needs his space, I would give it to him. Instead, my PA husband claims that “he is not sulking,” when he clearly is. Worse still, he blames me for causing his bad mood!”
3. “I wish he would feel secure enough in our relationship to know that he can not only communicate with me, and tell me what’s wrong, but that he can also let down his guard and let down his walls. I want him to know I’m here to support and comfort him, not undermine him. If my husband felt supported and happy, my family would be happy too.”
In what other ways would you know that he can calmly solve problems?
• “I don’t have to pretend things are fine just so he’s not offended.”
• “He acts his age and meets me on an adult level, even if he doesn’t get what he wants.”
• “When he has an issue with something in our relationship, he is calm and doesn’t make me feel like a criminal.”
• “He lets me know that my love and my support mean the world to him.”
• “When he’s sad or angry, I know I can bring a smile to his face and snap him out of it.”
• “He knows he can confide in me and trust me.”
• “He respects every member of our family, and never takes his anger out on them.”
I simply need a peaceful relationship.
NOW that you deeply acknowledge this need to be in a peaceful and nurturing relationship, to receive positive affection and encouraging support…how are you going to establish a peace zone in your life, where there is no sulking, no negativity and no love refusal? How are you going to provide yourself with this peaceful emotional area in a constant way?