I'm stuck in a marriage with three children! she wrote...
Some days ago, this posting landed in our comments section, and it was really painful to read. Once you overcome the shock of the pairing of two words that are opposite (who can be single being in a marriage?) the stark, basic truth hits you right smack on your heart: she is describing such a dysfunctional marriage, that she describes herself as "single."
Can you say more? what can you say to a person that is the depth of despair like her? Her words tell us how much despair is there, how much loneliness and how many frustrated emotional needs are in her situation. How is she required to raise those three children feeling such isolation?
A spouse going into complete isolation, silence and withdrawing all communication to the other person sharing life with him is directly attacking the basis of the home his children need to grow up nurtured and loved. Even if this person considers that he needs to defend himself from some imagined o real insult, the presence of three children should convince him of making a decent effort to improve the situation.
Today, I'm going to reverse the usual provision of ideas, and ask you what can you suggest to make her life better. What ideas, support and ways of changing this despair into a reasonable companionship can you offer? Let's see if the shared pool can share some ideas that she can use?
Thanks already for your good will!
My life is crumbling, largely because I have a completely passive aggressive husband. I like the advice I have seen so far but don't think they're relevant to my situation because I don't think my husband would mind one bit if I ignored him when he behaved badly. He wouldn't even notice. In fact, if I didn't talk to him or look at him or touch him or anything ever again, he wouldn't give it a second thought. I am single and yet stuck in a marriage with three children. Any advice welcome. Thanks.