Is it true that men prefer to say "YES" or be silent to avoid explaining themselves?
More than 68% of men prefer to say “yes” and back down to avoid confrontation, according to a survey recently conducted by Creative Conflict Resolutions. Otherwise, they do the silent treatment...and believe they can get away with it.
Creative Conflict Resolutions tested more than 900 men by using an online questionnaire, in order to determine the presence of passive aggressive behavior in each test-taker. This test has twenty-one questions about the way people approach communication and conflict in their relationship, and it is still available for free at their site, Passive Aggressive Test.
Using their findings, Creative Conflicts began to construct a map of the game of life, according to the passive aggressive mindset. The mindset demands “going along” with others by pretending to accept their requests and needs. In this way, the basic incompetence of the passive aggressive person to feel empathy is successfully masked. Essentially, what is produced is a “make believe role play,” where the passive aggressive person feels they are required to mask their own feelings and play a part in order to receive any sort of love.
What can Creative Conflicts offer to solve the cold shoulder?
Creative Conflicts wants those findings to be shared with the thousands of couples struggling with passive aggression. The partner of a passive aggressive person can spend the best 20-30 years of their life trying to decode this maddening double message. Meanwhile, in trying to decode it, the innocent partner can be accused of being crazy, aggressive and overly demanding.
This reveals why Creative Conflicts used their results in the way that they did: they created a new set of tools for the passive aggressive husband. With their survey, Creative Conflicts gained greater perspective on the mindset of the passive aggressive man and where his emotional needs lie. To change this situation, the system Creative Conflicts has created offers a road map that helps the passive aggressive person own his lack of empathy and the need to fake commitment, exchanging them for real emotional bonding. Creative Conflicts’ new system is ready for their clients, and has already met with success. It can be found at Passive Aggressive System.
I’ve been living with my PA husband 20 years who always give me double message. It changed “my innocence thought” to always searching meaning behind them. I start hating myself and realize that I haven’t grown better person since I’ve been with him. I am still married for my 4 kids. I just want to detach myself from him and not give any emotions. I wish I don’t have emotions to him.
It took me reading your blog over the last 2 yrs.to realize my ex-husband, of 3 months, married for 33 yrs, had been doing this to me since the day we were married. He has created a fine mess with this behavior since we would make major investments with $$ & then he would completely blame me when these items required time & effort to keep going. I am now in the sole position of liquidating our mess since he apparently felt compelled when discussing pro’s & con’s of certain investments to not be honest about his TRUE feelings. It’s called “tell them what YOU think they want to here” instead of being honest & saying “I think it will be difficult for these reasons…………………..”. Thankfully our situation will still turn out profitable, but frankly I realize the man had been lieing to me since the start of our marriage. He now wonders Why I can no longer trust him!