All this year, working on some issues about how to love and connect, we have developed a line of thinking that goes like this: We all have different humans needs, modulated in the shapes that our attachment provided for us. We all have needs for love and connection, but you will express them normally if […]
Healing the hurt done by emotional abuse
Are you living with emotional abuse at home? Emotional abuse creeps into a relationship bit by bit…now a bad word, a curse, or a negative comment done in public, and then it escalates into full-blown abuse. As long as the relationship has to develop and foster both sides growth and learning, one side can […]
How Well Are Your Emotional Needs Met?
Here is a Valentine’s Day question: How Well Are your Emotional Needs Met? You have a much better chance of having a long and happy relationship if your emotional needs are met. This is the basic and always forgotten marital contract: each one will provide what is needed to make the other person happy…. One […]
Living with a too controlling partner? Want a solution?
Tired of living with a controlling partner? This morning a delightful young woman taking care of my broken cell phone confided that she was going through a rough patch, “with my fiancee controlling everything I do…he accuses me of infidelity each time I need to leave for work…and he knows we need my income!” Admiring […]
Escaping The Sexless Marriage Book
Escaping The Sexless Marriage, is it possible? All marriages have conflicts, that when not addressed touch all other areas of the relationship. Spouses have different styles and expectations about when, how much, in what style should they address each other, including how they connect sexually with each other. Controlling the partner using passive aggressive behaviors […]