Balancing Passive Aggression Strategy 1

Dreaming of giving your passive aggressive husband a spoonful of his own medicine?

Are you really tired of balancing and compensating the day-to-day tasks he leaves undone? ever think of turning tables on him? This is the strategy called ‘fighting fire with fire.’

If your passive aggressive partner is used to have you covering up for his withdrawal, silences and frequent claims of helplessness, then STOP.

You need to train yourself on not reacting to cover up his missing activities.

Given that your own welfare and livelihood are dependent on his, because living together, he is confident that you will save both of you at the last-minute.

How could you pull this trick:

Declare somewhat casually that you are not to be automatically in charge of covering up what he leaves undone or forgets and that he needs to ask you for the favor of doing something in his own "to do list.'' If there is no request from his side, inform him you will let the issue expire, drop or be disconnected.

Try to pick one issue not so fundamental to your own well-being as the electricity supply. If this bill lapses because he didn’t remember to pay it, better you have your own flashlight hidden somewhere in the house.

Once you have selected your issue target, do nothing. Don’t remind him; don’t warn him; keep complete silence and see what happens.

Wait to mention the issue so he is the one first to recognize that something is not working.

Wait to be asked if you did pay the bill, etc.

Then, look at him and say:

“That was in your list, and as we both are grown up people,
we both need to take care of what needs to be done.”

Don’t offer to solve the problem; be prepared to live without, up until the moment he decides to go ahead and solve it.
It can be difficult, but remember that you are making a point here.

Probably, the most difficult part of this strategy will be stopping yourself from helping, solving or taking care of things...
This is a good thing to learn, so stay put, breathe deeply and remember to have fun and enjoy your own life.

PD. we have two more great strategies to teach you....keep reading.
If you have a good friend in need of learning them, could you send this message to them?


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