Relationship repair: The anger you hear is her pain
When disputes are frequent and people don’t bother even listening to the other side, the gap widens and relationships get sour. Hatred and contempt fill the gap with negative emotions difficult to dilute. You can be tempted to fight fire with fire and answer perceived aggressions with more aggression. We need to remember that each […]
How passive aggressive can you be?
There is a long standing conversation about husbands and wives having a difference of opinion… about the husband being passive aggressive, no less! It goes more or less like this: She complains; he denies all responsibility; She suffers; he ignores her suffering and walks away; She gets educated or a therapist; he laughs at them; […]
Passive Aggression and Childhood Attachment
Childhood early experiences leave a permanent mark in our brains; they become our stories, the basis for our identities, and later on they shape our adult relationships because of our biological wiring. This is not a common idea because we basically tend to think of ourselves as independent, self-reliant individuals and this is a very strong […]