Relationship repair: The anger you hear is her pain
When disputes are frequent and people don’t bother even listening to the other side, the gap widens and relationships get sour. Hatred and contempt fill the gap with negative emotions difficult to dilute. You can be tempted to fight fire with fire and answer perceived aggressions with more aggression. We need to remember that each […]
Defending yourself from love with passive aggression?
In this dance of connection and isolation named marriage, it is possible to see that the two people have different models to get together…basically how near can you get to people without fearing to be swallowed by the relationship? The national assumption about us being independent individuals crashes with the task of forming a new […]
How passive aggressive can you be?
There is a long standing conversation about husbands and wives having a difference of opinion… about the husband being passive aggressive, no less! It goes more or less like this: She complains; he denies all responsibility; She suffers; he ignores her suffering and walks away; She gets educated or a therapist; he laughs at them; […]