How to resuscitate a dying marriage
Wishing to resuscitate a dying marriage just now? I just received some reader’s letter, where she describes her utter desolation because she is watching her ex-husband doing to his new fiancée all those nice behaviors she was dreaming of: being attentive, showing care, sharing his time, introducing her to everyone, praising her in public, etc. […]
Do you Ignore, Suffer, or Confront Passive Aggressive Behavior?
What is Best: Ignore, Suffer, or Confront Passive Aggressive Behavior? Here is really the obnoxious situation that spouses complain about: the moment when you realize that your partner is avoiding going along with you using some passive-aggressive response. It takes some minutes for you to realize that you are not getting any response, not […]
Passive Aggression as a Defensive Skill?
Why using passive aggression as a defensive skill in a personal relationship? I now think passive aggression is selected to be used as a defensive skill to protect against a controlling parent or person from the past. The child, unable to leave, or to confront, takes this third way: to simulate compliance while rebelling internally….and […]