Could your passive aggressive husband's opposition serve you?
In this week, we feel grateful...many people believe it feels good to acknowledge when things go well. To say thank you when people help you or are nice to you. To express when you feel appreciative of something that makes your life obviously richer or better....is natural, right?
Reversing the thought, I would love to ask: Do we have to be grateful for the challenges we encountered? And if this is so, can we be grateful for the conflicts presented by your ever passive-aggressive acting husband?
You are going to say: "Nora, don't go there....your thinking is wrong here!" I got inspired by this poem, originally shared by Patrick Di Fruscia at G+
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?
Be thankful when you don't know something,
for it gives you the opportunity to learn.
During those times you grow.
Be thankful for your limitations,
because they give you opportunities for improvement.
Be thankful for each new challenge,
because it will build your strength and character.
Be thankful when you're tired and weary,
because it means you've made a difference.
A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who are also thankful for the setbacks.
Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive.
Find a way to be thankful for your troubles,
and they can become your blessings.
*Stay Strong & Live with Passion"
So, next time you are ready to complain (and justly so...) take a second to stop and think: What if this difficult response from him is making me clever and stronger? What if it builds in me the strength and resilience I will need later in life? Once you turn around the perception of an incident with your passive-aggressive husband, from something that hurts or diminishes you, to something that empowers you, then you are on your way to appreciating everything that happens in your life as a gift!
If, perhaps, my proposal here is too harsh for you, and you feel that I'm abandoning you to the pain of another Thanksgiving holiday without solutions to your marital distress...I'm inviting you to get your complimentary coaching session with me. Just write a comment below and I will answer!