How to be happy with yourself after abuse?
This book begins where others leave when it is asking me: "What was the meaning of going through that ordeal? Your pain had a meaning, and you need to recover it!" well, for me, survival (bruised and alone, but alive) was the only objective of that time; now looking back, I can see that my steps to survival had a germ of self-sufficiency that I couldn't see then.
I can understand now his petty motivation to abuse me, I can see how sometimes I allowed him to be nasty; I can see that I was going through the pain to learn how to be the person I am now...and all that allows me to feel so much joy! Joy of being alive, of being resourceful enough as to survive; of being creative enough as to erase the past pain and embrace the wonderful person I am...There is no other person I will submit to as I did before with him; now I accept only to connect with people who can appreciate the warrior I am.
It is not that I would recommend going through abuse to get to know who you are, but learning that you are a great person because you have survived emotional abuse and learned your own worth, is a great lesson. This book helped me recover and treasure that lesson; I will not forget it ever, because I paid a steep price to get to know who I am!"
This review is from Lucy Millen, commenting on the book: Stopping Emotional Abuse: the New Workbook to Recover and Grow Resilience from Emotional Abuse (Kindle Edition)