Comments on: Tips to manage difficult husband’s behaviors http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/tips-to-manage-difficult-behavior/ Know What to Expect ~ Know How to React Bring More Love and Sex To Your Life Now. Wed, 16 May 2012 06:48:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: peacewonk http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/tips-to-manage-difficult-behavior/#comment-241 peacewonk Sat, 08 May 2010 16:35:00 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?p=277#comment-241 Many thanks Tina for your comment...it is very powerful! you have discovered your own power. Let him reflect on what is necessary for us to pay attention to them! meanwhile, life continues and there are so many interesting things to enjoy! Many thanks Tina for your comment…it is very powerful! you have discovered your own power. Let him reflect on what is necessary for us to pay attention to them! meanwhile, life continues and there are so many interesting things to enjoy!

]]> By: tina http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/tips-to-manage-difficult-behavior/#comment-242 tina Sat, 08 May 2010 16:13:47 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?p=277#comment-242 I am going through the same thing. They make us feel crazy and that we're the problem. Boy was he shocked when he got the divorce papers. Know he suddenly is doing everything he was supposed to do all these years. To me, it's too late. I feel more empowered now that I don't have to put up with his sulking, forgetfuless, silent treatment etc. I know that you feel naive. I do too. Now I realize that my husband has only taken advantage of my good nature and my positive attitude. He almost stripped that away from me. Hang in there. You can't follow your dreams if you're living in your fear. Wishing you a refreshing new start. Take care. I am going through the same thing. They make us feel crazy and that we're the problem. Boy was he shocked when he got the divorce papers. Know he suddenly is doing everything he was supposed to do all these years. To me, it's too late. I feel more empowered now that I don't have to put up with his sulking, forgetfuless, silent treatment etc. I know that you feel naive. I do too. Now I realize that my husband has only taken advantage of my good nature and my positive attitude. He almost stripped that away from me. Hang in there. You can't follow your dreams if you're living in your fear. Wishing you a refreshing new start. Take care.

]]> By: peacewonk http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/tips-to-manage-difficult-behavior/#comment-197 peacewonk Sat, 08 May 2010 12:35:00 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?p=277#comment-197 Many thanks Tina for your comment...it is very powerful! you have discovered your own power. Let him reflect on what is necessary for us to pay attention to them! meanwhile, life continues and there are so many interesting things to enjoy! Many thanks Tina for your comment…it is very powerful! you have discovered your own power. Let him reflect on what is necessary for us to pay attention to them! meanwhile, life continues and there are so many interesting things to enjoy!

]]> By: tina http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/tips-to-manage-difficult-behavior/#comment-196 tina Sat, 08 May 2010 12:13:47 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?p=277#comment-196 I am going through the same thing. They make us feel crazy and that we're the problem. Boy was he shocked when he got the divorce papers. Know he suddenly is doing everything he was supposed to do all these years. To me, it's too late. I feel more empowered now that I don't have to put up with his sulking, forgetfuless, silent treatment etc. I know that you feel naive. I do too. Now I realize that my husband has only taken advantage of my good nature and my positive attitude. He almost stripped that away from me. Hang in there. You can't follow your dreams if you're living in your fear. Wishing you a refreshing new start. Take care. I am going through the same thing. They make us feel crazy and that we're the problem. Boy was he shocked when he got the divorce papers. Know he suddenly is doing everything he was supposed to do all these years. To me, it's too late. I feel more empowered now that I don't have to put up with his sulking, forgetfuless, silent treatment etc. I know that you feel naive. I do too. Now I realize that my husband has only taken advantage of my good nature and my positive attitude. He almost stripped that away from me. Hang in there. You can't follow your dreams if you're living in your fear. Wishing you a refreshing new start. Take care.

]]> By: lostlove http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/tips-to-manage-difficult-behavior/#comment-190 lostlove Mon, 05 Apr 2010 14:37:44 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?p=277#comment-190 How can you say you enjoy the time. I am so tired of being alone in a marriage of 25 years. It has taken me this long to fully understand the man I married. How could I have been so Naive? Marriage counseling five times only to have him quit everytime because there was nothing wrong with him.<br><br>I am waiting for my son to graduate and I am on the road out of here, He will not work at this and I need some love and peace in my life. I wish you the best. How can you say you enjoy the time. I am so tired of being alone in a marriage of 25 years. It has taken me this long to fully understand the man I married. How could I have been so Naive? Marriage counseling five times only to have him quit everytime because there was nothing wrong with him.

I am waiting for my son to graduate and I am on the road out of here, He will not work at this and I need some love and peace in my life. I wish you the best.

]]> By: wanda http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/tips-to-manage-difficult-behavior/#comment-187 wanda Thu, 11 Mar 2010 14:58:24 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?p=277#comment-187 I haven't heard anything about dicipline. Someone with more intellect than me might know if that might be what causes problems for people. I think that is why I took courses and worked with showing dogs etc. If you don't get proper upbringing then you have to give it to yourself ? Just keeping busy doiing and enjoying the process of living with whatever is in my hands, makes for pleasure although it isn't without a lot of pain, physical and mental. I haven't heard anything about dicipline. Someone with more intellect than me might know if that might be what causes problems for people. I think that is why I took courses and worked with showing dogs etc. If you don't get proper upbringing then you have to give it to yourself ? Just keeping busy doiing and enjoying the process of living with whatever is in my hands, makes for pleasure although it isn't without a lot of pain, physical and mental.

]]> By: Wanda http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/tips-to-manage-difficult-behavior/#comment-185 Wanda Tue, 09 Mar 2010 15:37:34 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?p=277#comment-185 I am dreaming of doing more with my life, this is true. I have done a lot in the past, but I still want to do more. Right now, I have my plate full with cooking,, cleaning, sewing , PC , and many other hobbies. What to do for an outlet is not the problem. I used to ignore my husband with his pouting etc, but now he is ailing and needs me to watch him, I have to hurry when cleaning the garage or the yard as I don't know if he is OK in the house. Oh..I love my life. I create fun. I wish you could see how much I love life. It is just that I can't seem to just ignore him and not care. I feel every pain that he has..,although he has no physical pain. He knows that and magnifies a lot of it, but I can't be sure. I know he is using me, but what can I do.? He can lie about our finances as he has done them . He had a desk job for work and had the time to do it and I figured that with me doing everything else, it would be good for us if he did that. I still think he should, but he now just wants to do nothing but sit around and do what he likes to do. I can't walk as I have health issues that make it very hard to do physical . I am in very hard pain with my body. The drs tell me that I am not taking care of my health, but I just think I will be OK and try to take care. My spirit is good, but I'm frustrated and worried about taking care of us financially and physically. We have no one. We have a son that wanted us here fourteen years ago, After we built the house down the road, they look for reasons to be on the outs with us and not speak. It is off and on and we just let it go however they want it. Now I have to live with taking the blame for letting my husband have the control of the finances. I have a budget made up, but he deceives, lies and withholds info so I just can't manage. I have tried for many years to do this with him, and he just says," you want to to it, go ahead, but he shows that he won't give me what i need to go on. So I can look on the PC and see, but some things are not there etc. I would not work , sewing and all to save, and not want to know what I have worked for. I could only have what he says I can have. Look at in stores what he is interested in. Now I have told you his PA stuff, but he has a lot of good in him. Wish I did not see that, but I do. I know what caused this PA behavior. I think if I had his upbringing, I would be the same. I want to help our situation in life, and that is what you sense in my writing, I guess. We all need understanding and love. I was lucky to have lived my early years in great stress, and found people that showed me compassion.in my later years, though. I have some good stories to tell about all this. When I talk with people about these experiences, they listen and hate to leave. I want to write a book about all that I have done and learned from doing. No...I do not feel any guilt about how I have lived . Yes ..I want to keep going, but the spirit is willing and the body and mind getting tired. If I could just get the truth out about all this, it would be a blessing. One thing I know is that all this stuff , no matter how awful it seems, is a lesson that we can use to help another. This PA disorder is a bugger and I will use whatever I can to help step on it. Thank you again. Wanda <br><br><br>. I am dreaming of doing more with my life, this is true. I have done a lot in the past, but I still want to do more. Right now, I have my plate full with cooking,, cleaning, sewing , PC , and many other hobbies. What to do for an outlet is not the problem. I used to ignore my husband with his pouting etc, but now he is ailing and needs me to watch him, I have to hurry when cleaning the garage or the yard as I don't know if he is OK in the house. Oh..I love my life. I create fun. I wish you could see how much I love life. It is just that I can't seem to just ignore him and not care. I feel every pain that he has..,although he has no physical pain. He knows that and magnifies a lot of it, but I can't be sure. I know he is using me, but what can I do.? He can lie about our finances as he has done them . He had a desk job for work and had the time to do it and I figured that with me doing everything else, it would be good for us if he did that. I still think he should, but he now just wants to do nothing but sit around and do what he likes to do. I can't walk as I have health issues that make it very hard to do physical . I am in very hard pain with my body. The drs tell me that I am not taking care of my health, but I just think I will be OK and try to take care. My spirit is good, but I'm frustrated and worried about taking care of us financially and physically. We have no one. We have a son that wanted us here fourteen years ago, After we built the house down the road, they look for reasons to be on the outs with us and not speak. It is off and on and we just let it go however they want it. Now I have to live with taking the blame for letting my husband have the control of the finances. I have a budget made up, but he deceives, lies and withholds info so I just can't manage. I have tried for many years to do this with him, and he just says,” you want to to it, go ahead, but he shows that he won't give me what i need to go on. So I can look on the PC and see, but some things are not there etc. I would not work , sewing and all to save, and not want to know what I have worked for. I could only have what he says I can have. Look at in stores what he is interested in. Now I have told you his PA stuff, but he has a lot of good in him. Wish I did not see that, but I do. I know what caused this PA behavior. I think if I had his upbringing, I would be the same. I want to help our situation in life, and that is what you sense in my writing, I guess. We all need understanding and love. I was lucky to have lived my early years in great stress, and found people that showed me compassion.in my later years, though. I have some good stories to tell about all this. When I talk with people about these experiences, they listen and hate to leave. I want to write a book about all that I have done and learned from doing. No…I do not feel any guilt about how I have lived . Yes ..I want to keep going, but the spirit is willing and the body and mind getting tired. If I could just get the truth out about all this, it would be a blessing. One thing I know is that all this stuff , no matter how awful it seems, is a lesson that we can use to help another. This PA disorder is a bugger and I will use whatever I can to help step on it. Thank you again. Wanda

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]]> By: Nora Femenia http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/tips-to-manage-difficult-behavior/#comment-184 Nora Femenia Mon, 08 Mar 2010 20:02:25 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?p=277#comment-184 Dear Wanda,<br>at this time in life, perhaps you are looking at certain areas of your life full of "unfinished business." What are the dreams you need yet to fulfill?<br>Even when situations are pressing, if you are clear about putting yourself first, you can accomplish more than you thought. What kind of help can you gather around you, so there is time/energy resources for you? Even the freedom of taking a walk to enjoy the weather can be a relief. Make a list of activities you can do; even indoors (like reading of using your computer) and print a copy, so you can paste that copy to the wall and each day you think: what of that list can be done today?<br>Don;t be "too understanding" of others if you can't be "too self-supporting" in your needs and wishes, will you? Dear Wanda,
at this time in life, perhaps you are looking at certain areas of your life full of “unfinished business.” What are the dreams you need yet to fulfill?
Even when situations are pressing, if you are clear about putting yourself first, you can accomplish more than you thought. What kind of help can you gather around you, so there is time/energy resources for you? Even the freedom of taking a walk to enjoy the weather can be a relief. Make a list of activities you can do; even indoors (like reading of using your computer) and print a copy, so you can paste that copy to the wall and each day you think: what of that list can be done today?
Don;t be “too understanding” of others if you can't be “too self-supporting” in your needs and wishes, will you?

]]> By: Wanda http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/tips-to-manage-difficult-behavior/#comment-183 Wanda Mon, 08 Mar 2010 18:17:54 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?p=277#comment-183 I have lived with a PA husband for almost 60 years and I think I have coped well with having my own interests etc and bringing up our children alone. Now in my later years, I am having a harder time coping and it seems to be too much stress. He needs me for physical help more now so I can't busy myself with my hobbies. What does an elderly woman do ? Can one be too understanding ? That is what works for me, but have been told that I spoil him etc. Still learning ... I have lived with a PA husband for almost 60 years and I think I have coped well with having my own interests etc and bringing up our children alone. Now in my later years, I am having a harder time coping and it seems to be too much stress. He needs me for physical help more now so I can't busy myself with my hobbies. What does an elderly woman do ? Can one be too understanding ? That is what works for me, but have been told that I spoil him etc. Still learning …

]]> By: jrnuerge http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/tips-to-manage-difficult-behavior/#comment-177 jrnuerge Tue, 16 Feb 2010 17:59:46 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?p=277#comment-177 His goal is to rattle you and therefore have control. It is hard to do but you must, in your mind, pretend that you are not rattled and that everything is fine. Do not play into the game. His goal is to rattle you and therefore have control. It is hard to do but you must, in your mind, pretend that you are not rattled and that everything is fine. Do not play into the game.

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