Let me tell you something…the deep wish under all this Valentine’s Day claptrap is something we don’t dare to mention the rest of the year:
TO HAVE A SECURE BUT EXCITING LOVE RELATIONSHIP!
How do you combine the two things?
Secure is boring….exciting is dangerous….so what gives?
For the rest of us, ensconced in a healthy but boring routine, [...]
We have been talking about the difficult skills of “detaching” from the emotional impact caused by the passive aggression.
Detaching is observing the behavior without showing a lot of emotion. If you do not react strongly, you do not give the passive aggressive person the emotional control, nor do you give them the opportunity to turn the [...]
For the New Year, I know what I want;
It’s the same wish I always knew:
If having someone at my side:
He will not make the rules – tell me what I do, where I can go, decide by himself who spends the money and what it’s spent on.
If accepting someone’s love, this love will not be:
Conditioning [...]
In a toxic relationship, the balance of power is manipulated by one side as to keep the control over the other person’s thoughts and behaviors.
In order to make their partner feel inadequate or weak, the controlling person will use verbally abusive tactics as shame, belittling, name-calling and sarcasm. In this way they grab the more [...]
Although emotional abusers are not always out to destroy those around them, they are out to control them. Because they have their own ideas about what is right, and how they want things to be, they see themselves as enforcers of the “right way.”
Once you accept that you are in this world to control [...]
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