Is it Love Or Marital Control ?

Are You Under Marital Control?  Marital control is too common, almost automatic... done by finding ways of putting down the other. Perhaps we should be teaching this lesson to our 5-year-old daughters, so they grow up aware of what expects … [Read more...]

How can abusers really change?

Frowning Woman Looking at Man

Did You Ask: Can Abusers Really Change? I got thinking about real change and how we can be sure that it is really happening when reading this comment in my last post: "I agree my husband is a product of childhood anger not being release the right … [Read more...]

The Four Relationship Killers: do you know them?

The Four Relationship Killers —  Relationship problems are common...And sometimes you have them over and over and over. Now there is a lot of good research on relationship pathologies. So who can provide answers to relationship challenges? Dr. … [Read more...]

Do you Ignore, Suffer, or Confront Passive Aggressive Behavior?

  What is Best: Ignore, Suffer or Confront Passive Aggressive Behavior? Here is really the obnoxious situation that spouses complain about: the moment when you realize that your partner is avoiding going along with you using some passive … [Read more...]

Passive Aggression as a Defensive Skill?

Why using a defensive skill in a personal relationship? I now think passive aggression behavior is selected to be used as a defensive skill to protect against a controlling parent or person from the past. The child, unable to leave, or to confront, … [Read more...]