January 20, 2012 – 3:20 pm
WE ARE STUCK IN THIS DANCE: HERS HIS I feel let down, isolated, and lonely. If I confront you to get you to see what is hurting me and come back to me.. It Just Drives You Away, You became defensive and justify yourself. If I despair, you retreat even more Then I get [...]
By Neil Warner
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Posted in assertiveness, healthy happy relationship, impact of passive aggression, passive aggressive behavior, Passive Aggressive Husband, passive aggressive marriage, Relationship Repair
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Also tagged appreciation, cold shoulder, communication, detachment, disengaged feeling, emotional needs, human needs, hurt, isolation, silence
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December 5, 2011 – 3:01 pm
Confrontations don’t just magically stop happening! To handle conflict correctly and learn from past mistakes, partners need a protocol to manage life’s inevitable confrontations and they need to know how to do relationship repair. We don’t often think past getting into a relationship – but taking care of a relationship is just as important! Managing confrontations [...]
By Neil Warner
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Posted in assertiveness, Relationship Repair
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Also tagged appreciation, communication, control, emotional dependence, emotional needs, love, marriage, relationship repair, self-esteem, unhappiness
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October 21, 2011 – 11:34 am
photo credit: ValetheKid Some of the most damaging interactions between a PA husband and his wife go like this conflict escalation: She wants a moment of intimacy, so she shares all her feelings (no filter here); She expects husband to do the same; He doesn’t know how, he stays silent; The more she gets frustrated [...]
August 30, 2011 – 8:00 am
People have different times to process emotional contents…when one person is fast to acknowledge that for them there is a need to stop interactions and protect themselves, other person could still go on and deny their personal hurt a bit longer. There is also a gender difference; where women are trained to use self-examination as [...]
By Neil Warner
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Posted in impact of passive aggression, passive aggressive behavior, Passive Aggressive Husband, passive aggressive personality, toxic relationship
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Also tagged cold shoulder, communication, detachment, disengaged feeling, divorce, emotional needs, expectations, frustrated, isolation, passive aggression, passive aggressive behavior, Passive Aggressive Husband, resentment
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In this dance of connection and isolation named marriage, it is possible to see that the two people have different models to get together…basically how near can you get to people without fearing to be swallowed by the relationship? The national assumption about us being independent individuals crashes with the task of forming a new [...]
By Neil Warner
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Posted in assertiveness, impact of passive aggression, passive aggressive behavior, Passive Aggressive Husband, passive aggressive marriage
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Also tagged appreciation, attacks, cold shoulder, control, detachment, disengaged feeling, emotional abuse, passive aggression, passive aggressive behavior
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