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		<title>Is he always fighting against your ideas?</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[When I feel that he is “Always Fighting against My Ideas,” the dream I’m yearning for is… team work. There were some responses (58%) telling about this dream situation: 1. “My dream is to feel that I am half of a whole: he supports me, I support him, and together we make one whole couple [...]<p><a href="http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/fighting-ideas/">Is he always fighting against your ideas?</a> is a post from: <a href="http://passiveaggressivehusband.com">Passive Aggressive Husband</a></p>



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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>When I feel that he is “<strong>Always Fighting against My Ideas</strong>,” the dream I’m yearning for is… team work.</p>
<p>There were some responses (58%) telling about this dream situation:</p>
<p>1. “My dream is to feel that I am half of a whole: he supports me, I support him, and together we make one whole couple work. I want someone who challenges and encourages me in equal measure, making me a better person. He doesn’t have to indulge my every idea – just support the truly good ones and gently disagree with the not-so-great ones. I want a teammate, someone who will work with me. My greatest regret is that my husband has not been as invested in our children as I wished, nor supported me in my efforts towards them, but always coming with a contrary idea that leaves me alone and confused.”    </p>
<p>2. “I have learned that the more I push for something, the more he pulls away from it. So, I have left ideas of moving in together, even after a year of dating, in the back of my mind. Outwardly, I show him that the idea completely disinterests me now. If he would be open to ideas and be willing to talk about things even when they scare him, I wouldn’t have to hide my dreams in the shadows.”</p>
<p>3. “What I need is for my husband to let me know that he thinks my ideas and opinions are valid and well founded. Otherwise, he’s not treating me as his partner or his ally; he’s treating me as an enemy, as someone to be dismissed. He’s telling me that I don’t have the right to make decisions or have input.”</p>
<p><strong>In what other ways would you know that he is there to work with you?</strong></p>
<p>•	“He makes me feel that we are on the same team. We both want resolution and compromise, so we both give ideas while being open to new ones.”<br />
•	“Even if he does not agree with my every idea, he appreciates the creativity and resourcefulness that go into them, and encourages me to stay motivated.”<br />
•	“He doesn’t rush – he listens carefully and tries hard to see things from my point of view.”<br />
•	“Since we listen well to each other, we realized that we share a lot of common ideas.”<br />
•	“When I have a good idea, he is quick to acknowledge it and work with me to make it happen. When he disagrees, he gives me an honest opinion; not a derogatory one.”</p>
<p><strong>I simply need to feel supported by him.</strong></p>
<p>NOW that you deeply acknowledge this need to feel supported by him, the person nearer you…how are you going to find the direct and clear support you need to face everyday’s life challenges? How far do you think you can go without his explicit words of recognition and support, being him the most important person in your life? And how are you going to repair the damage caused by his lack of recognition of your best ideas that forces you to feel incompetent and worthless? Where is the motivation to keep developing yourself coming from?</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[When I feel that he is “Punishing Me for Crying,” the dream I’m yearning for is… comfort. Most of the responses (68%) expressed dreams around the following insights: 1. “I wish that he honestly cared and was concerned when he saw that I was crying. I wish he could see that I’m hurting, pure and [...]<p><a href="http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/support-cry/">Do you have his support when you cry?</a> is a post from: <a href="http://passiveaggressivehusband.com">Passive Aggressive Husband</a></p>



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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>When I feel that he is “<strong>Punishing Me for Crying,</strong>” the dream I’m yearning for is… comfort.</p>
<p>Most of the responses (68%) expressed dreams around the following insights:</p>
<p>1. “I wish that he honestly cared and was concerned when he saw that I was crying. I wish he could see that I’m hurting, pure and simple. What I need at those times is not to be dismissed or told I’m playing the victim, like usual – I need comfort and understanding, things that come only with real, honest communication.”<br />
2. “It would be wonderful if I could be emotional when I need to and he would just hug me close, stroke my hair, and let me cry it out. I don’t want to feel that I have to hide from him or he’ll laugh at me for crying. That’s just not healthy; everybody cries. I’d rather have compassion and a desire to make me feel better.”<br />
3. “I want to be able to feel whatever it is I’m feeling, whatever it is that’s troubling me, without being made to feel that my feelings are unfounded and that I&#8217;m being unreasonable. My husband is a Marine and can’t grasp the concept of ‘crying.’ That’s a very lonely situation.”</p>
<p><strong>In what other ways would you know that he is there to comfort you?</strong></p>
<p>•	“He lets me know that my emotions are valid and that it’s OK for me to feel the way I do.”<br />
•	“Sometimes I just don’t want to talk about why I’m sad &#8211; the important thing is that he always asks why.”<br />
•	“If he makes me cry, he is sure to stop himself and comfort me. He always regrets his conduct and tries to work things out in a different way.”<br />
•	“He knows that sexual passion is not enough – sometimes I need some simple compassion.”</p>
<p><strong>I simply need to feel safe when I&#8217;m down!</strong></p>
<p>NOW that you deeply acknowledge this need to feel safe to express pain and sadness, and to be comforted by him …how are you going to find the safe space where to be able to express your emotions ? How are you going to ask for empathy and respect for your feelings, whatever they can be? And how are you going to feel supported and comforted when life delivers one of these blows that makes you (and everybody else) need a good cry to feel better?</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[When I feel that he is “Sabotaging My Projects,” the dream I’m yearning for is… unconditional support. Some of the responses, 75% of them expressed dreams so: 1. “I need to know that I have a partner who cares! When you truly love someone, you want what’s best for them; you want to see them [...]<p><a href="http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/sabotaging-projects/">Is he Frequently Sabotaging Your Projects?</a> is a post from: <a href="http://passiveaggressivehusband.com">Passive Aggressive Husband</a></p>



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<strong>“Sabotaging My Projects,</strong>” the dream I’m yearning for is… unconditional support.</p>
<p>Some of the responses, 75% of them expressed dreams so:</p>
<p>1. “I need to know that I have a partner who cares! When you truly love someone, you want what’s best for them; you want to see them spread their wings and try to fly. Helping them with the things that matter to them is never a burden. Most importantly, loving someone means you wouldn’t dream of sabotaging their projects; their dreams. Unfortunately, that’s exactly what my husband has done, and almost all of my projects have been ruined by him.”</p>
<p>2. “More than anything, I desire the freedom and confidence to take on even the hardest projects. Instead of criticizing me or telling me I can’t do it, he should be cheering me on, letting me know that he’s proud of me. I know that I am strong enough to succeed without his help… But success would be so much more gratifying if I knew that he had been there to encourage me through my struggles.”</p>
<p>3. “I want to know that we don’t have to compete against one another and argue about whose project or needs are more ‘important’. I wish we could slow down, lean on each other more, and simply enjoy our time together. Who knows, maybe we would even get excited about each other’s important projects!”</p>
<p><strong>In what other ways would you know that he supports you?</strong></p>
<p>• “I know I can count on his support when I need it, no matter what it is I require.”</p>
<p>• “My husband cares enough to do something simply because he knows it’s important to me.”</p>
<p>•  “He is with me every step of the way, but he also respects my space and gives me time to develop my projects.”</p>
<p>• “It is a back and forth conversation: I give him my full support, and he returns the gesture.”</p>
<p>• “He takes a real, genuine interest in the things I want to do.”</p>
<p><strong>I simply need to feel respected.</strong></p>
<p>NOW that you deeply acknowledge this need to be respected, included and supported in your life struggles by the person most near you…how are you going to find the warm support you need to face everyday’s life challenges? How are you going to challenge his way of denying support to your projects, and request from him the reciprocal support that is the core of any marriage? And how are you going to repair the damage caused by his negativity and lack of support that forces you to give your battles always alone and with an extra handicap of fearing him stabbing you in the back? </p>
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		<description><![CDATA[When I feel he is “Giving Me the Cold Shoulder,” the dream I’m yearning for is… warmth. Some 78% of the responses expressed: 1. “Although no one should ever be given the cold shoulder, and I don’t agree with him giving it to me, I still want to know why he thinks I deserve it. [...]<p><a href="http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/receiving-cold-shoulder-treatment/">Are You Receiving Cold Shoulder Treatment?</a> is a post from: <a href="http://passiveaggressivehusband.com">Passive Aggressive Husband</a></p>



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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>When I feel he is  <strong> “Giving Me the Cold Shoulder,”</strong> the dream I’m yearning for is… warmth.</p>
<p>Some 78% of the responses expressed:</p>
<p>1. “Although no one should ever be given the cold shoulder, and I don’t agree with him giving it to me, I still want to know why he thinks I deserve it. Better yet, if I do something wrong and hurt him, I want him to simply come to me and say, ‘You hurt me.’ I would do everything in my power to right my wrong, if only I knew what it was.”</p>
<p>2. “I want there to be warmth in our relationship instead of this coldness that he’s created by turning me away. It would make me so happy to be able to say to each other, ‘Honey, I am upset because of this or that, but I still love you.’”</p>
<p>3. “I am allowed to express my feelings as long as they are in agreement with his. If they are not, I am isolated for them and given the cold shoulder. I want to feel that I am worth something to him, that I will never be ignored. I want to feel that I am part of a special institution – marriage – and not an orphan looking longingly through the window.”</p>
<p>In what other ways would you know that he would never turn his back on you?</p>
<p>•	“I feel like I made a good choice when I married him. I can count on him for anything.”</p>
<p>•	“He tries hard to keep a good mood and move on with the day, even if we run into a snag.”</p>
<p>•	“I know that I am the last person on earth he would turn his back to.”</p>
<p>•	“We have everything we need to be happy and comfortable. He would never jeopardize that by weakening our connection.”</p>
<p>•	“When he’s upset, he never jumps to conclusions and blames me. We sit down together and talks things out until we find the real reasons.”</p>
<p>•	“He makes me feel wanted and loved in a personal, intimate way.”</p>
<p>•	“It would break his heart to know he had made me cry.”</p>
<p><strong>I simply need his open heart, loving me.</strong></p>
<p>NOW that you deeply acknowledge this need to be loved, included and helped by healthy confrontation when is needed&#8230;how are you going to find the warm support you need to face everyday&#8217;s life challenges? How are you going to challenge his isolating himself and giving you the cold shoulder, and educate him into proper and respectful communication that solves problems and expresses love and commitment at the same time?</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[When I feel that he has a “Sulking Face for No Reason,” the dream I’m yearning for is…calm and peace. Some 65% of the responses are: 1. “I would like to feel that when and if he starts sulking, it’s a momentary lapse. It’s normal to feel a little let down sometimes, but he needs [...]<p><a href="http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/stop-sulking-face/">Again a sulking face? No more negativity!</a> is a post from: <a href="http://passiveaggressivehusband.com">Passive Aggressive Husband</a></p>



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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>When I feel that he has a   “<strong>Sulking Face for No Reason</strong>,” the dream I’m yearning for is…calm and peace.</p>
<p>Some 65% of the responses are:</p>
<p>1. “I would like to feel that when and if he starts sulking, it’s a momentary lapse. It’s normal to feel a little let down sometimes, but he needs to let it go, get back in the game, and resolve the issue like an adult.”</p>
<p>2. “Some honesty between us would be great. He could just tell me when something is truly bothering him, and if he needs his space, I would give it to him. Instead, my PA husband claims that “he is not sulking,” when he clearly is. Worse still, he blames me for causing his bad mood!”</p>
<p>3. “I wish he would feel secure enough in our relationship to know that he can not only communicate with me, and tell me what’s wrong, but that he can also let down his guard and let down his walls. I want him to know I’m here to support and comfort him, not undermine him. If my husband felt supported and happy, my family would be happy too.”</p>
<p><strong>In what other ways would you know that he can calmly solve problems?</strong></p>
<p>•	“I don’t have to pretend things are fine just so he’s not offended.”</p>
<p>•	“He acts his age and meets me on an adult level, even if he doesn’t get what he wants.”</p>
<p>•	“When he has an issue with something in our relationship, he is calm and doesn’t make me feel like a criminal.”</p>
<p>•	“He lets me know that my love and my support mean the world to him.”</p>
<p>•	“When he’s sad or angry, I know I can bring a smile to his face and snap him out of it.”</p>
<p>•	“He knows he can confide in me and trust me.”</p>
<p>•	“He respects every member of our family, and never takes his anger out on them.”</p>
<p><strong>I simply need a peaceful relationship.</strong></p>
<p>NOW that you deeply acknowledge this need to be in a peaceful and nurturing relationship, to receive positive affection and encouraging support…how are you going to establish a peace zone in your life, where there is no sulking, no negativity and no love refusal? How are you going to provide yourself with this peaceful emotional area in a constant way?</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[When I feel like &#8220;I’m Walking on Eggshells,&#8221; the dream I’m yearning for is… confidence. An overwhelming 92% of the responses expressed dreams consistent with the following wishes: 1. “I wish that he loved to hear what I had to say and that it was as important to him as it was to me. I [...]<p><a href="http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/dream-confidence/">How to Stop the Feeling of &#8220;Walking on Eggshells&#8221;?</a> is a post from: <a href="http://passiveaggressivehusband.com">Passive Aggressive Husband</a></p>



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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><strong>When I feel like &#8220;I’m Walking on Eggshells,&#8221; the dream I’m yearning for is… confidence.</strong></p>
<p>An overwhelming 92% of the responses expressed dreams consistent with the following wishes:</p>
<p>1. “I wish that he loved to hear what I had to say and that it was as important to him as it was to me. I would like to feel that all topics are open between us, and that if disagreements arose we could resolve them calmly, and head straight to the solution. If only he would stop ignoring or avoiding things by weaving a complicated, confusing web around the issue. When this happens, it creates one more conflict that will not be dealt with.”</p>
<p>2. “I have been married to a PA man for 46 years. Don’t gasp! After years of guilt, I finally found an explanation and came to terms with what I had been living with. I have learned to detach emotionally and physically and moved away from husband, which seems to have improved our relationship. Not many people realize how lonely it is being the wife of a PA husband, even though he’s such a “nice guy!  My dreams of having a husband who loves, cherishes and protects me, never came about.  I am realistic enough to love myself, and now I make the most of the positive things in my life.  It is living one day at a time.”</p>
<p>3. I want to be freed from that feeling of, “What’s wrong with him now?” I want him to share with me what his needs, desires, and ideas are. He won’t (or can’t), and I can’t do it for him. Only he can. </p>
<p>4. In my heart and soul, I truly desire that we freely share all the possibilities of life, together. I know that I’m a wonderful person, but sometimes you need that encouragement, that validation, and that respect to come from your partner instead.</p>
<p><strong>In what other ways would you know he is emotionally available?</strong></p>
<p>·         “I can be open, honest, and natural with my partner, and I know he will not think less of me if he knows who I really am.”</p>
<p>·         “He acknowledges and listens attentively to my feelings and ideas.”</p>
<p>·         “He lets me know that my feelings are just as important as his.”</p>
<p>·         “I know I won’t be punished for bringing up certain things.”</p>
<p>·         “I can be myself in my own home and can truly speak my mind, and so can he.”</p>
<p>·         “There is such freedom of ideas between us that I feel like I am flying.”</p>
<p>·         “We connect and care for each other on such a deep level that we can say what needs to said, and there is never any fear of retaliation, derision, or feeling foolish.”</p>
<p><strong>I simply need to be myself.</strong></p>
<p>NOW that you deeply acknowledge this need to be yourself, to accept and value yourself and do away with all the hidden negativity and criticism of the &#8220;walking on eggshells&#8221; behavior&#8230;how are you going to allow yourself to be the unique and valuable person you are? How are you going to detach from his critiques and appreciate who you are, first and only?</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Days ago, we invited you to answer a survey about your dreams of happiness in a relationship. There were several questions, of which this is the first. We will publish the others shortly. Here are your  answers, expressing a deeply felt dream in this way: When “My Emotional Needs are Ignored,” the dream I’m yearning for [...]<p><a href="http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/dream-emotional-satisfied/">How do you dream to have your emotional needs satisfied?</a> is a post from: <a href="http://passiveaggressivehusband.com">Passive Aggressive Husband</a></p>



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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p align="center">Days ago, we invited you to answer a survey about your dreams of happiness in a relationship. There were several questions, of which this is the first. We will publish the others shortly. Here are your  answers, expressing a deeply felt dream in this way:</p>
<p align="center"><strong>When “My Emotional Needs are Ignored,” the dream I’m yearning for is&#8230;</strong><strong>being cherished as his partner.</strong></p>
<p><strong><br /></strong></p>
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<li>&#8220;My dream is that he would show a willingness to address my emotional needs. He does not recognize and address my needs, even though I do so for him, and this creates a lonely feeling of dissatisfaction. Ideally, he would WANT to do this instead of denying that he may be causing my lack of fulfillment.&#8221;</li>
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<p> </p>
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<li>&#8220;I would like to feel I am part of a couple; that I am with someone who cares enough to listen when I need something and try to help. I&#8217;m not asking for someone perfect who will give me riches and rose petals on the bed… just someone who loves me enough to make me <em>feel</em> loved. With my PA husband, I feel that he gives me the exact opposite of the things I need: loneliness, lack of affection, and punishment for wanting more.&#8221;</li>
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<li>&#8220;My emotional needs should be important to my partner, even if he does not understand why. If I communicate my needs, I expect him to try to meet them, not undermine how I feel. He may say “They matter, you matter,” but that shouldn’t be said, it should be proven. Is it too much to ask that he try to make me happy?&#8221;</li>
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<p><strong>IN WHAT OTHER WAYS YOU WOULD KNOW THAT YOUR EMOTIONAL NEEDS ARE SATISFIE</strong>D?</p>
<ul>
<li>“He feels good when satisfying my emotional needs!&#8221;</li>
<li>&#8220;He notices that I&#8217;m upset and wants to discuss it or proposes an agreement on how we can both be satisfied.&#8221;</li>
<li>&#8220;He can listen to my needs description without hostility, and with keen interest.&#8221;</li>
<li>&#8220;He makes me feel heard, loved, cared for, by kissing and hugging me.&#8221;</li>
<li>&#8220;I hear him saying, “I&#8217;m sorry,” “I&#8217;m gonna try my best,” “I love you”&#8230;&#8221;</li>
<li>&#8220;He cares about my emotional happiness and is eager that we both be fullfilled in our marriage.&#8221;</li>
<li>&#8220;I makes me feel like I matter; that my thoughts, ideas, and feelings are respected and valued rather than ignored, minimized, or rejected<strong>.&#8221;</strong></li>
<li>&#8220;My emotions are okay with him and don’t change his perception of me.&#8221;</li>
<li>&#8220;He never issues emotional threats that devalue me.&#8221;</li>
<li>&#8220;I simply need to be loved, validated and respected.&#8221;</li>
<li>&#8220;He makes me feel my emotional needs are as important as his or anyone else&#8217;s. Every human being needs these things to feel a connection to the good in the world.&#8221;</li>
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<p>WELL, this is a lot of food for thought, right? as always, you can chip in any time, with your comments or letters&#8230;Now, wait for the next one!</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Your dreams are so heart-felt and moving that I have to read them a bit at a time...they are so powerful and moving! We will share some reflections on them soon, but first let me give you a taste of the issues we are dealing with here:

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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>First things first&#8230;.Thanks to every one of you who dared share <a href="https://spreadsheets.google.com/viewform?formkey=dE82LVA1RkI3a1pOSlhhbFVwRHZ3U1E6MQ">the &#8220;Dreams&#8221; Survey</a>. Your dreams are so heart-felt and moving that I have to read them a bit at a time&#8230;they are so powerful and moving! We will share some reflections on them soon, but first let me give you a taste of the issues we are dealing with here:</p>
<p>The core of some messages goes deep into the issue of IDENTITY:</p>
<p>Like asking the basic existential question:</p>
<p>&#8220;<em>Who am I to him? a fellow human being, deserving of respect for my needs, or a mere thing?</em>&#8220;</p>
<p>&#8220;I would like to feel I am part of a couple; that I am with someone who loves me and cares enough for me to listen to my needs and try to fill some of them. I&#8217;m not asking for someone perfect to fulfill my every wish and desire, just someone who loves me enough to TRY, to want to do things that make me feel happy and loved.  And, I would do the same for that partner.  With my PA husband, I feel like he gives the exact opposite of anything I ask for.  I am always being &#8220;punished&#8221; somehow for having any needs at all.&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;That my emotional needs are important to my partner, even if he does not understand them completely; if I communicate my needs, I expect him to try and meet them if he really cares and loves me and not try and undermine and deny how I feel.&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;I want to feel that my emotional needs are important to him and I would like him to show it with his behavior, not just say it.&#8221;</p>
<p>Looks like the marriage deal is a not so hidden contract of reciprocal confirmation: <em>&#8220;I will confirm that you are a valuable human being by listening and respecting your needs, and you will do the same for me&#8230;&#8221;</em></p>
<p>Even when violation of this basic contract between you and your spouse is happening all the time, our survey confirms that any of you forgets the basic purpose of being married: to get support, confirmation and validation from your spouse, and reciprocally, to give to him this kind of recognition.</p>
<p>What happens if we feel that we give him respect, attention and validation, but not receive the same for our own needs? Well, sometimes I tend to think if this behavior is the norm, then I&#8217;m getting shortchanged and abused. Our human need to be appreciated never goes away, what it does is to force us to find other sources for it. If we don&#8217;t satisfy it, our soul whiter and dies of starvation. What other will see is our lack of a strong self-esteem&#8230;.what we experience is the loss of an inner center of strength and identity.</p>
<p>And why a spouse? because that is the most important contract of our lives! to find another person who can see and appreciate our qualities, (even the hidden ones) and praise them and admire them&#8230;This is the real basis for love, do you agree?<br /> We tend to love those compassionate people who can see in us positive aspects perhaps we tend to ignore, and talk about them, and appreciate them, and make them real&#8230;.</p>
<p>Here and then, you know that you really matter to that person&#8230; Is there a better love proof!</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Reflecting on the conversations going on at AskNora, we can see the common pattern of suffering described by the writers. Each one has a story where her own hopes of a happy life were thwarted by passive aggressive behavior. They were left in what looked like a marriage, but was a well of frustration and [...]<p><a href="http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/dreams-healthy-happy-relationship/">What are your dreams of a healthy, happy relationship?</a> is a post from: <a href="http://passiveaggressivehusband.com">Passive Aggressive Husband</a></p>



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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Reflecting on the conversations going on at <a href="http://www.passiveaggressivehusband.com/asknora">AskNora</a>, we can see the common pattern of suffering described by the writers. Each one has a story where her own hopes of a happy life were thwarted by passive aggressive behavior. They were left in what looked like a marriage, but was a well of frustration and loneliness instead.</p>
<p>Indeed, each house is a different world. In each couple there are behaviors done, and behaviors missing. And a lot of time waiting for happiness to come back, to be just in the center of this relationship&#8230;.We know a lot of what makes you unhappy;<br />
we know less of what is missing; what would you make happier.</p>
<p>If we look at the experience of &#8220;walking on eggshells,&#8221; we see that it is too common in the shared stories. If you had not to walk on eggshells, what would you like to experience instead of that behavior? What is the opposite experience that makes you feel secure and accepted? </p>
<p>If you identify with being in the receiving end of &#8220;Getting the cold shoulder?&#8221; what would you like instead, that offers you the opposite experience? how do you dream the feeling of having a partner that shares ideas and thinking and planning with you, and how does it make you feel?</p>
<p>We invite you here to share your thoughts. Please, look at the litany of passive aggressive behaviors our readers suffer and are describing in their postings at AskNora, check the ones that you recognize as part of your life&#8230;.and feel free to describe what your soul wants instead. Nobody but you knows what is what would you feel right, loved and supported, so use your own words to describe what you want to have in your life now.</p>
<p>You can begin your comment by saying:</p>
<p>&#8220;Instead of this behavior (fill the blank here) what I really need/want/appreciate is this other behavior!&#8221; (describe your heart&#8217;s desire here)</p>
<p>Thanks for sharing!</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[Have you been sometimes daydreaming of giving your PA husband a spoonful of his own medicine? Are you really tired of balancing and compensating the day to day tasks he leaves undone? ever think of turning tables on him? This is the strategy called ‘fighting fire with fire.’ If your passive aggressive partner is used [...]<p><a href="http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/strategy1/">Balancing Passive Aggression Strategy 1</a> is a post from: <a href="http://passiveaggressivehusband.com">Passive Aggressive Husband</a></p>



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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Have you been sometimes daydreaming of giving your PA husband a spoonful of his own medicine? Are you really tired of balancing and compensating the day to day tasks he leaves undone? ever think of turning tables on him? This is the strategy called ‘fighting fire with fire.’  </p>
<p>If your <a href="passiveaggresive.com">passive aggressive partner</a> is used to have you covering up for his withdrawal, silences and frequent claims of helplessness, then STOP.</p>
<p>You could train yourself on not reacting to cover up his missing activities. Given that your own welfare and livelihood are dependent on his, because living together, he is confident that you will save both of you at the last minute.</p>
<p>How could you pull this trick: </p>
<p>Declare somewhat casually that you are not to be automatically in charge of covering up what he leaves undone or forgets and that he needs to ask you for the favor of doing something in his own &#8220;to do list.&#8221; If there is no request from his side, inform him you will let the issue expire, drop or be disconnected.</p>
<p>Try to pick one issue not so fundamental to your own well being as the electricity supply. If this bill lapses because he didn’t remember to pay it, better you have your own flashlight hidden somewhere in the house.</p>
<p>Once you have selected your issue target, do nothing. Don’t remind him; don’t warn him; keep complete silence and see what happens.</p>
<p>Wait to mention the issue so he is the one first to recognize that something is not working. Wait to be asked if you did pay the bill, etc. then, look at him and say “That was in your list, and as we both are grown up people, we both need to take care of what needs to be done.”</p>
<p>Don’t offer to solve the problem; be prepared to live without, up until the moment he decides to go ahead and solve it. It can be difficult, but remember that you are making a point here.</p>
<p>Probably, the most difficult part of this strategy will be stopping yourself from helping, solving or taking care of things&#8230;This is a good thing to learn, so stay put, breathe deeply and remember to have fun and enjoy your own life.</p>
<p>PD. we have two more great strategies to teach you&#8230;.keep reading. If you have a good friend in need of learning them, could you send this message to them? Thanks!</p>
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