Comments on: Is your Passive Aggressive Spouse Making you Feel Crazy? http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/passive-aggressive-spouse-making-feel-crazy/ Sun, 05 Sep 2010 03:30:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: zeeally http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/passive-aggressive-spouse-making-feel-crazy/comment-page-1/#comment-236 zeeally Fri, 12 Feb 2010 23:48:42 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?p=257#comment-236 i really like this site<br>not yet finished reading all but i,m hopeful to find a solution<br>anyway i,m glad to know i 'm not a lonely case i really like this site
not yet finished reading all but i,m hopeful to find a solution
anyway i,m glad to know i 'm not a lonely case

]]> By: zeeally http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/passive-aggressive-spouse-making-feel-crazy/comment-page-1/#comment-175 zeeally Fri, 12 Feb 2010 18:48:42 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?p=257#comment-175 i really like this site<br>not yet finished reading all but i,m hopeful to find a solution<br>anyway i,m glad to know i 'm not a lonely case i really like this site
not yet finished reading all but i,m hopeful to find a solution
anyway i,m glad to know i 'm not a lonely case

]]> By: Antonella http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/passive-aggressive-spouse-making-feel-crazy/comment-page-1/#comment-159 Antonella Wed, 06 Jan 2010 05:31:31 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?p=257#comment-159 I agree with Karen and Pink. This approach might work temporarily and I am actually quite disappointed to see it offered as a viable solution on this site. I have tried it on my PA partner and for a couple of months I sincerely believed it was working ok. I remenber feeling guilty and manipulative for having to deal with his behaviour without his consent, and I was tired by the constant effort of hiding my hurt and pretending I did'nt care about things he was doing. But the worse was yet to come,once my PA partner realized my new approach, his anger and resentment were multiplied. He increased his efforts to control the situation tenfolds and turned into a real nemesis, sabotaging everything and spreading nasty gossips and rumors about me, his mother, sons and basically everyone unlucky enough to cross his path. In one final gesture of 'shock and awe' he suddenly, and without a mention, moved out on us the week before we were to transfer to the house we had just bought together. I have since taken an intervention order against him because I am terrified of what he might try to do to hurt me now that I refuse to see him or talk to him. I know he has been spreading rumors and lies about what really happened, but I am so happy I made it out of the nightmare my life had become (in the 7 1/2 years we were together) that I really don't care about what he does or says anymore. All I have to say to women (and men) out there, stuck in a relationship with a PA abuser, is : GET OUT ASAP AND CUT ALL TIES !!! It is the only way to regain your peace of mind and your light. I have not spoken to him for 6 months now and friends and collegues tell me I look happier, healthier and younger (and that's exactly how I feel). You owe it to yourselves to break free from the constant manipulation and abuse. Nothing will work unless the PA person decides it will. And that they will never do. I agree with Karen and Pink.
This approach might work temporarily and I am actually quite disappointed to see it offered as a viable solution on this site.
I have tried it on my PA partner and for a couple of months I sincerely believed it was working ok. I remenber feeling guilty and manipulative for having to deal with his behaviour without his consent, and I was tired by the constant effort of hiding my hurt and pretending I did’nt care about things he was doing. But the worse was yet to come,once my PA partner realized my new approach, his anger and resentment were multiplied.
He increased his efforts to control the situation tenfolds and turned into a real nemesis, sabotaging everything and spreading nasty gossips and rumors about me, his mother, sons and basically everyone unlucky enough to cross his path.
In one final gesture of ‘shock and awe’ he suddenly, and without a mention, moved out on us the week before we were to transfer to the house we had just bought together. I have since taken an intervention order against him because I am terrified of what he might try to do to hurt me now that I refuse to see him or talk to him. I know he has been spreading rumors and lies about what really happened, but I am so happy I made it out of the nightmare my life had become (in the 7 1/2 years we were together) that I really don’t care about what he does or says anymore. All I have to say to women (and men) out there, stuck in a relationship with a PA abuser, is :
GET OUT ASAP AND CUT ALL TIES !!! It is the only way to regain your peace of mind and your light.
I have not spoken to him for 6 months now and friends and collegues tell me I look happier, healthier and younger (and that’s exactly how I feel).
You owe it to yourselves to break free from the constant manipulation and abuse.
Nothing will work unless the PA person decides it will.
And that they will never do.

]]> By: Pink http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/passive-aggressive-spouse-making-feel-crazy/comment-page-1/#comment-123 Pink Thu, 19 Nov 2009 17:14:17 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?p=257#comment-123 I have to agree with Karen. Negotiating with terrorists never works. I have to agree with Karen. Negotiating with terrorists never works.

]]> By: karen http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/passive-aggressive-spouse-making-feel-crazy/comment-page-1/#comment-113 karen Mon, 26 Oct 2009 13:51:44 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?p=257#comment-113 I am completely surprised by the "solution" by Mr. Warner. PA partners "don't have a hard time expressing themselves". There is no trade-off,ie, as stated - perhaps he can help his overburdened wife with other things if he doesn't want to do the laundry... PA partners are all about control. Period. The husband in this example didn't do the laundry because he didn't want to do laundry, he didn't do the laundry because she WANTED him to do the laundry. Laundry has nothing to do with it. I am completely surprised by the “solution” by Mr. Warner. PA partners “don’t have a hard time expressing themselves”. There is no trade-off,ie, as stated – perhaps he can help his overburdened wife with other things if he doesn’t want to do the laundry…

PA partners are all about control. Period. The husband in this example didn’t do the laundry because he didn’t want to do laundry, he didn’t do the laundry because she WANTED him to do the laundry. Laundry has nothing to do with it.

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