A Passive Aggressive Husband Hides From Intimacy

Living with a passive aggressive husband is a very disconcerting experience. You are fighting against shadows, and it is possible that it takes you a long time to realize the real nature of the relationship. By “fighting against shadows,” we want to convey the meaning that you never have a concrete, real, and constant obstacle. As it is based in an emotional resistance to intimacy, then you get all the gamut of denial, evasion, silence, and all the ways of “not really being here with you” he can muster. This style of communication is usually perceived by the victim as in this case: “My husband never says my name; he fails to acknowledge my presence, does not give me any compliments ever or volunteer help or information. He rarely asks me a question of any kind, or God forbid, inquire about my wants, needs, feelings, etc.”Being in a lonely marriage can be disconcerting……wasn’t the whole purpose to live with somebody else in an intimate relationship?

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Nora Femenia, Ph.D, is the CEO of Creative Conflict Resolutions and the author of the book: "The Art of Living with a Passive Aggressive Husband," a field guide for women that have to deal with passive aggression in their partners. Nora also posts regularly on her blog Creative Conflicts. Visit her blog and join the community to discuss issues related to Conflicts, Relationships and receive also Free her book “Breaking Free From The Silent Treatment.” You are warmly welcomed here, because we care for your happiness!

  • Magdel

    I have been married for 3 years, 2 kids have been born. My husband drinks on weekends. He never tells me he loves me, he never touch me only when we have sex. He don’t even sit next to me. Lately he is getting aggressive towards me. He pusshes me and graps me hard.

    I love him.