How to be happy with yourself after abuse?
This book begins where others leave when it is asking me: “What was the meaning of going through that ordeal? Your pain had a meaning, and you need to recover it!” well, for me, survival (bruised and alone, but alive) was the only objective of that time; now looking back, I can see that my steps to survival had a germ of self-sufficiency that I couldn’t see then.
I can understand now his petty motivation to abuse me, I can see how sometimes I allowed him to be nasty; I can see that I was going through the pain to learn how to be the person I am now...and all that allows me to feel so much joy! Joy of being alive, of being resourceful enough as to survive; of being creative enough as to erase the past pain and embrace the wonderful person I am…There is no other person I will submit to as I did before with him; now I accept only to connect with people who can appreciate the warrior I am.
It is not that I would recommend going through abuse to get to know who you are, but learning that you are a great person because you have survived emotional abuse and learned your own worth, is a great lesson. This book helped me recover and treasure that lesson; I will not forget it ever, because I paid a steep price to get to know who I am!”
This review is from Lucy Millen, commenting on the book: Stopping Emotional Abuse: the New Workbook to Recover and Grow Resilience from Emotional Abuse (Kindle Edition)
Can you identify and make yours her words? “I was going through the pain to learn how to be the person I am now!”