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]]> By: Nora Femenia http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/asknora/#comment-482 Nora Femenia Fri, 13 Apr 2012 03:56:00 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?page_id=285#comment-482 Dear Al Orne, I understand your frustration, reflected in your famous phrase: single in a marriage with three children. I could not be more clear: you are feeling completely abandoned by him. As you describe him, he is acting as if he is detached from you completely. Is he detached also from the children? If so, there is little hope that he would show his affection for your group as a family. Regardless what can or can't have happened in the past to cause this degree of emotional independence between you two, the gap is serious. You don't say clearly if you approach him when he behaves badly or sometimes you reach out at him in more calm times...It would be useful here to see if there is any way of getting a reaction from him: if you don't say anything when he behaves badly, but decide to appreciate the little "right behaviors," like driving the kids to school, or paying the bills, or doing something common but necessary for the functioning of the home. This last situation should surprise him; he is not expecting from you any positive comment! if you can stop chasing him with PA readings, and do something extraordinary like appreciating something he has done, that will shake him up, and you would know that you can move him somehow and that his shield is not so impenetrable. Try to shake him, surprising him somehow,  only to feel that you have the power to do so....and you will discover that there are things left in your power. That will make you feel a bit better.  Hope this is clear, even if you can see it as a bitter pill; but you need to recover some self-esteem now. Dear Al Orne,
I understand your frustration, reflected in your famous phrase: single in a marriage with three children. I could not be more clear: you are feeling completely abandoned by him. As you describe him, he is acting as if he is detached from you completely. Is he detached also from the children? If so, there is little hope that he would show his affection for your group as a family.
Regardless what can or can’t have happened in the past to cause this degree of emotional independence between you two, the gap is serious.
You don’t say clearly if you approach him when he behaves badly or sometimes you reach out at him in more calm times…It would be useful here to see if there is any way of getting a reaction from him: if you don’t say anything when he behaves badly, but decide to appreciate the little “right behaviors,” like driving the kids to school, or paying the bills, or doing something common but necessary for the functioning of the home. This last situation should surprise him; he is not expecting from you any positive comment! if you can stop chasing him with PA readings, and do something extraordinary like appreciating something he has done, that will shake him up, and you would know that you can move him somehow and that his shield is not so impenetrable. Try to shake him, surprising him somehow,  only to feel that you have the power to do so….and you will discover that there are things left in your power. That will make you feel a bit better. 
Hope this is clear, even if you can see it as a bitter pill; but you need to recover some self-esteem now.

]]> By: Goldy55 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/asknora/#comment-478 Goldy55 Sat, 07 Apr 2012 19:34:00 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?page_id=285#comment-478 Dear Al:  I hope you don't mind if you explain what the definition of "stuck in a marriage, but I am single w/3 children.  Let's start with this answer & I believe you might be in the right place.  Dear Al:  I hope you don’t mind if you explain what the definition of “stuck in a marriage, but I am single w/3 children.  Let’s start with this answer & I believe you might be in the right place. 

]]> By: Al Orne http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/asknora/#comment-477 Al Orne Sat, 07 Apr 2012 18:59:00 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?page_id=285#comment-477 I showed this website to my husband.  Obviously, he just walked off without saying a word.  LOL. I showed this website to my husband.  Obviously, he just walked off without saying a word.  LOL.

]]> By: Al Orne http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/asknora/#comment-476 Al Orne Sat, 07 Apr 2012 18:22:00 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?page_id=285#comment-476 Hello.  Just found this website.  My life is crumbling, largely because I have a completely passive aggressive husband.  I like the advice I have seen so far but don't think they're relevant to my situation because I don't think my husband would mind one bit if I ignored him when he behaved badly.  He wouldn't even notice.  In fact, if I didn't talk to him or look at him or touch him or anything ever again, he wouldn't give it a second thought.  I am single and yet stuck in a marriage with three children.  Any advice welcome.  Thanks. Hello.  Just found this website.  My life is crumbling, largely because I have a completely passive aggressive husband.  I like the advice I have seen so far but don’t think they’re relevant to my situation because I don’t think my husband would mind one bit if I ignored him when he behaved badly.  He wouldn’t even notice.  In fact, if I didn’t talk to him or look at him or touch him or anything ever again, he wouldn’t give it a second thought.  I am single and yet stuck in a marriage with three children.  Any advice welcome.  Thanks.

]]> By: Nora Femenia http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/asknora/#comment-472 Nora Femenia Thu, 29 Mar 2012 22:16:00 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?page_id=285#comment-472 Hi dear friends here... we are uploading this blog very soon...I want to give you some heads up...The Content that you like will be the same, but posting be much more easy! Please, keep posted, and watch us grow! Hi dear friends here…
we are uploading this blog very soon…I want to give you some heads up…The Content that you like will be the same, but posting be much more easy!
Please, keep posted, and watch us grow!

]]> By: Nora http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/asknora/#comment-471 Nora Tue, 20 Mar 2012 21:11:00 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?page_id=285#comment-471 Lesley, I have no predetermined answer to your question.If he thought that this kind of proposition would enhance his own sexual disposition, I guess that he got frustrated. The dynamics of PA doesn't play very well including others...you are supposed to be the only recipient of his frustrating moves. When it didn't happen as he imagined, then comes his surprise, because in that way you stopped being controlled by his usual antics. You can go ahead with your proposal, but be very aware that there is not a lot of space in this game and he will flip, or do something to go back to the status quo.... Lesley,
I have no predetermined answer to your question.If he thought that this kind of proposition would enhance his own sexual disposition, I guess that he got frustrated. The dynamics of PA doesn’t play very well including others…you are supposed to be the only recipient of his frustrating moves. When it didn’t happen as he imagined, then comes his surprise, because in that way you stopped being controlled by his usual antics.
You can go ahead with your proposal, but be very aware that there is not a lot of space in this game and he will flip, or do something to go back to the status quo….

]]> By: Lesley http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/asknora/#comment-470 Lesley Mon, 19 Mar 2012 19:17:00 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?page_id=285#comment-470 Hello,  I have a rather unusual type of question.  Regarding the lack of intimacy in PA scenario's, Nora what are your thoughts about an open marriage with a PA husband.  Mine...lol...plays or tries to play a bit of a jealousy game and was very interested in swinging which we did but it backfired on him.  He and I quote said "it wasn't what I thought it was going to be"......this is because he thought it was just going to make me jealous and it would be better for him than me!  Boy was he wrong......so now he's not too enthusiastic about it at all....lol.  I am thinking that perhaps I should discuss an open marriage but before I do that I am wondering what your experience with this are. Thanks. Hello,  I have a rather unusual type of question. 

Regarding the lack of intimacy in PA scenario’s, Nora what are your thoughts about an open marriage with a PA husband.  Mine…lol…plays or tries to play a bit of a jealousy game and was very interested in swinging which we did but it backfired on him.  He and I quote said “it wasn’t what I thought it was going to be”……this is because he thought it was just going to make me jealous and it would be better for him than me!  Boy was he wrong……so now he’s not too enthusiastic about it at all….lol.  I am thinking that perhaps I should discuss an open marriage but before I do that I am wondering what your experience with this are.

Thanks.

]]> By: molly http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/asknora/#comment-447 molly Thu, 02 Feb 2012 23:04:00 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?page_id=285#comment-447 By the way, God IS the one that is guiding me.  I have a firm belief in Him and know he is helping me through this turbulent time. By the way, God IS the one that is guiding me.  I have a firm belief in Him and know he is helping me through this turbulent time.

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