http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/address-behavior-retaliating/ Fri, 03 Feb 2012 23:33:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/address-behavior-retaliating/comment-page-1/#comment-31 IlseG Thu, 25 Jun 2009 11:28:20 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?p=206#comment-31 Two years ago, I got to know a nice lawyer lady working at the community services agency, who convinced me she could get me a divorce fast if I managed to hide from him....so I did. Why I had to leave the father of my children behind? Since I remember him, he was a person ready with negative comments and always had something critical to say about everyone, my friends, neighbors, family,his co-workers. According to his stories, he was always the victim of other people's stupidity. When I tried to point how hurtful this constant demeaning was to me, he took what I had to say as only a cruel critique of his "loving ways" and blamed me for his comments: I always provoked or deserved his comments! I got used to be very cautios, not spontaneous in front of him, afraid of his temper tantrums... as if walking on eggshells to not to upset him. If he got mad, like if he got a traffic tickect, he would like enter the house and break my things or curse me. I would not tell my family, how can you describe to them to be in a state of constant terror? I was isolated, lonely and always afraid...Looking back, the best thing I did for myself and the kids was to run away. Two years ago, I got to know a nice lawyer lady working at the community services agency, who convinced me she could get me a divorce fast if I managed to hide from him….so I did. Why I had to leave the father of my children behind?
Since I remember him, he was a person ready with negative comments and always had something critical to say about everyone, my friends, neighbors, family,his co-workers. According to his stories, he was always the victim of other people’s stupidity. When I tried to point how hurtful this constant demeaning was to me, he took what I had to say as only a cruel critique of his “loving ways” and blamed me for his comments: I always provoked or deserved his comments! I got used to be very cautios, not spontaneous in front of him, afraid of his temper tantrums… as if walking on eggshells to not to upset him. If he got mad, like if he got a traffic tickect, he would like enter the house and break my things or curse me. I would not tell my family, how can you describe to them to be in a state of constant terror? I was isolated, lonely and always afraid…Looking back, the best thing I did for myself and the kids was to run away.

]]> http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/address-behavior-retaliating/comment-page-1/#comment-20 Sareen Sun, 14 Jun 2009 14:43:12 +0000 http://passiveaggressivehusband.com/?p=206#comment-20 Even when you say all the recommendations here, I'm still concerned about his ability to get even with me. I can't avoit being fearful of his sneaky way of telling me that he is in control....hiding my things, making decisions only to hurt me, without consulting, and having this complete other life of his where I'm not included. Some days I feel that my only solution is to walk away and disguise myself for the rest of my life...this is so unjust! but what help is there to force him to behave? nobody will have him doing decent things to his family....he will hide more of his income and play dead when there are needs in the family to be solved, and nobody can't talk him into doing differently....this is a very lonely marriage! Even when you say all the recommendations here, I’m still concerned about his ability to get even with me. I can’t avoit being fearful of his sneaky way of telling me that he is in control….hiding my things, making decisions only to hurt me, without consulting, and having this complete other life of his where I’m not included. Some days I feel that my only solution is to walk away and disguise myself for the rest of my life…this is so unjust! but what help is there to force him to behave? nobody will have him doing decent things to his family….he will hide more of his income and play dead when there are needs in the family to be solved, and nobody can’t talk him into doing differently….this is a very lonely marriage!

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